Try put yourself in this situation: you are made to choose between the one you truly love and your family. Which one will be your choice?
The logical answer will be choosing your family over the one you love. After all, they have been there all your life and has been supporting you in so many ways, it is unfair for you to let them go and choose the person you love. But then again, if your family loves you, don't they want to see you happy too? OK, they may say that they know what is best for you, but really, do they know you that well?
I know that there are many people out there who sacrificed their love just so that their family is happy. In the end, they are the one who suffer. Living a life full of facade, trying to be happy, trying so hard to satisfy the others, except themselves. It is a selfless act I might say. But then again, those who choose the person they love will be termed as selfish, why is that so?
What about the family? Aren't they selfish too if they were to impose a life, a future on that individual when that individual has no say at all? Using health, status, and anything under the sun as ammunitions to make the individual feel guilty if he/she were to choose the love of her/his life? Is that fair?
Unless that individual has been living in the caves for most of his/her life, then someone has the rights to map her/his future. Other than that, I guess we do need freedom to learn and live our own lives... don't you agree?
To my girlfriend, stay calm, breath, and be strong. Life is never fair.